3 1/2 weeks!
And I’ll have a husband at home again after just over a year!!!
I actually get butterflies in my stomach when I think about it. I adore him, always have, and can’t wait to have him back in my daily life physically. These days I think of it too often, which makes time seem to slow…that isn’t good, but what can I do?!?!? It’s funny how fast the weeks usually fly by for me these days. But this last one has practically slowed to a crawl. It’s the butterflies, I tell ya.
I’ve not had an update on my sister in law, but will let you guys all know as soon as I know something. I still don’t know what to do about my 12 year old son and his grades. Tomorrow is the last day of the trimester and he wasn’t really able to bring them up in the short amount of time that he was given. I was unaware with how bad his grades were until about two weeks ago and I put him on weekday restriction and had him do work. Two of the three teachers who are giving him an F refused to give him any extra credit work or anything. Very much not cool, but so near the end of the trimester there is little I can do. I think that alot of what he is going through is common for a boy his age though, especially for one whose father has been gone the past year. So, I think that what I am probably going to do is allow him to finish up the year in this school and then go from there. If his grades improve, I’ll let him stay in and if they don’t, we’ll home school him at the beginning of the next school year.
Had a bit of a frustrating day yesterday, concerning my other son who is in a public school. As the trimester is ending, they’re giving out awards in school today. Noah is in the 2nd grade and is doing 3rd grade math work and yet the teacher chose not to give him an award for it. He’s never not gotten an award for math before and I wanted to know why she chose not to give him one so I talked to her about it. No…I don’t want to be known as the parent who complains…but you know, if you don’t stand up for an injustice you see being done to your child, who will? She said that she is only allowed to give out 6-8 awards for subjects, best in math, best in reading…things of that nature, and that she chose two other children who are also doing good in their 2nd grade math who she believes should be acknowledged too. Well, that’s all fine and well…I think that they should be awarded. But so should my child who is doing math a full grade level higher then where he should be. That should be recognized! It is wrong that they base the awards given out on a numerical limit rather then basing it on merit! I called the school, wanting to file a formal complaint (I have never done anything like this before) in the hopes that the rule can be changed. Please believe me, I do not think that awards should just be handed out willy nilly, and that is kind of my point…they should be handed out to those who are excelling AND to those that may not be excelling but are working to their best.
I’m good though…thanks be to you all and buddyslim itself for being here so that we can all vent our stresses as they come. I can’t tell you how thankful I was that last night was kickboxing night at the dojo!!! hehe No better way for stress relief that a fabulous workout that includes punching and kicking a heavy bag repeatedly!!!
I hope that you all who happen to be reading this are having a blessed and happy day!
I wish I could be a fly on the wall when your husband comes home and sees how fantastic you look. Actually, I take that back…it may get X-Rated! Good for you for standing up for your son as well Catrina!
Girfriend - this blog is long and I won’t have that much time to read it right now!!
Just know I support you! Yah hubby coming home!
And yah you for being back and keeping us in the loop!!!!!
I love all the pics so funny hehe!
you are so inspiring and yeah i would have made a call about the math thing too. I bet your sooooo excited for your honey coming home!!
Wooo hoooo! Catrina!! We will know who NOT to call! hehe
I am still praying for your sister in law too. AND for your sons, love you!
How exciting to have hubby back.
I know you’ve been waiting a long time.
My son had a tough time around age 12 / 13 in school too but he overcame it and did well after that.
Its too bad you didn’t know sooner that his grades were poor.
It was the same thing with my son.
We didn’t know until it was too late to do anything about it.
That is frustrating but sounds like you are dealing with it.
I bet having dad home to talk to will help too.
Good for you for supporting your other son.
His achievements should be recognized and changes should be made to that rule.
Its good that you brought it to their attention it may be something that has just been overlooked til now.
Hang in there hubby will be home soon
in the meantime I guess those butterflies will just keep dancing in anticipation
He won’t recognize you with all the weight you’ve lost already
but I don’t think he’ll mind the new sexy wife he’ll find when he comes home. 
I am EXCITED for you to get to see your husband again! I bet the butterflies are filling you and cant wait to get OUT! My sister was just telling me yesterday (she has a 2 yearold) that she is serisouly considering homeschooling my niece when she is older because she is not sure she wants to deal with school districts, teashers and administrators who dont think they same way, who dont treat children the same way, who are just there for a paycheck, kids who are bullies etc. I feel for you with your kiddos and hope your son is able to make it at the school he is in and way to go on talking to the school abt the award, I agree with you—the awards should be on merit, not on how many they are allowd to give out!
I’m soo glad your hubby is coming home!!! I don’t know how you do it. Even though sometimes I wish my hubby would just go away, I couldn’t stand for him to be gone that long.
I’m a teacher and I have students in the age range that your son is in and let me tell you, he is not the only boy having a problem. And it does seem to be worse when the dad at home.
Okay, this is going to be a long comment, because as a teacher I am appaud at the attitude of both your son’s teachers.
Our whole goal as educators is to teach children. NOT FAIL THEM! If he was stuggling in one class, you should have been notified. If he was stuggling in several, they should have meet with you!
I don’t like extra credit, but you should ask if it would be possible for you son to take an incomplete in his classes then redo the work and test. The whole goal is that he learns. If his grades are bad because he just doesn’t do his homework or doesn’t turn it in (big problem at that age), you need to find out what his test scores are. If he is failing but understands and in proficient on the material, then you guys need to work together to figure out a way to get him to turn in his work.
Find out if the school has a policy for notifying parents when students are not meeting the standards. Most schools now have on-line gradebooks that parents can check their child’s grade on, but they often don’t tell the parents about it. Ask if your school has one. If they don’t, suggest they get one!! See if they have a tutoring program that your son could attend. A lot of times, it takes nothing more than a few weeks of mandatory tutoring to get a kids butt in gear on getting there grades in. They don’t want to go to tutoring, so they do their work.
You should request a meeting with his teachers to find a strategy to make your child successful in school. If they are any kind of teacher at all, they will want to help you guys. Ask that the principal be present to moderate the meeting. Stay calm. Teacher’s are people too and like anyone else, they will react badly if they think they are being attacked. That won’t help your son.
As far as your other son is concerned. That is absurd!! It sounds to me like the teacher was trying to do something good by recognizing other students. She probably thought your son would be receiving so many awards that he wouldn’t miss the one for math. She was following the guidelines set forth by the school. Well, those guidelines are ridiculous!! Children that are exceling should be recognized. Period.